Assertiveness and Anger

Managing Anger: Self Care Handbook. This workbook contains exercises for exploring the causes of anger, identifying warning signs and triggers, and developing strategies for anger management. Also has information on dealing with someone else’s anger.

Burns, R. (2001). Making Assertiveness Happen: A Simple and Effective Guide to Developing
Assertiveness Skills. This book teaches specific assertiveness scripts/skills and shows how to use these in a variety of situations, such as giving feedback, saying “no,” asking for help, and dealing with problems.

Hauak, P. A. (1974). Overcoming Frustration and Anger. This older book contains some useful tips on recognizing the thinking processes which contribute to anger and developing coping strategies.

McKay, M., Davis, M., & Fanning, P. (1995). Messages: The Communication Skills Book (2nd Ed.). Reviews basic communication skills such as listening, self-disclosure, expressing as well as more advanced skills such as clarifying and conflict skills. Also discusses family and public communication skills.

McKay, M., Rogers, P. D., & McKay, J. (1989). When Anger Hurts: Quieting the Storm Within.
Provides practical guidelines for identifying the effects of anger and learning coping skills for dealing with anger. Includes specific anger management skills.

Paterson, R. J. (2000). The Assertiveness Workbook: How to Express Your Ideas and Stand Up for Yourself at Work and In Relationships. Filled with exercises, this workbook helps to overcome the barriers to assertiveness as well as teach basic assertiveness skills, such as saying “no,” making requests, and confrontation.

Silverberg, Farrell (2005). Make the Leap: A Practical Guide to Breaking the Patterns That Hold You Back. Uses the SUBGAP method (seeing, understanding, breaking, and guarding against patterns) to help you combat destructive patterns that get in the way of meeting your goals.

Small, M. (2005). What About Me, What Do I Want? Becoming Assertive. This short, easy-to-read book focuses on four basic communication styles (assertive, passive, aggressive, and passive-aggressive) and offers tips on how to overcome the obstacles to being assertive, including the fear of saying “no.”

Smith, M. (1975). When I Say No, I Feel Guilty. Describes an individual’s assertive rights and provides a comprehensive review of assertiveness techniques. Uses specific examples and dialogues to help one apply assertiveness strategies to various situations, from friends to partners to supervisors.